don't let your failures define you. It's who you are that matters..

Today I was at a government office to apply for change of my marital status "Married to Divorced" . At the Information Desk, I was welcomed by a decent man who seemed to have all the information that any visitor would need from this office. As I asked him to guide me through my work, I experienced a very different human behavior. There are words we could not say, words that no one might be longing to hear yet we utter them to complete our tasks.

 I said " I am here to change my marital status; back to my father's name". I could see the man struggling to choose what is right over what is best  in selection of his words to continue this conversation. He hesitantly answered " may I know the reason of change, is it divorce or god forbid a young death" . I answered " Divorce". He then continued with the procedure. Around the same time, a lady in her late fifties ( looked more aged beyond her years) approached him with a similar question. I immediately turned to listen as how would he attend this lady. Here he questioned " is it because of death" and the lady replied " No, divorce after 33 yrs of marriage and now im 59". The man replied "do you still want to go through this hassle of name change" and the lady said "yes, I want to live and make my own identity. I gave my youth to this man and his children, now I want to see what I can give to myself".

Friends, we all dream for fuller lives, healthy relationships but when we fail, we start blaming ourselves till we brutally kill our own existence. No matter how hard it is for you to decide whether to leave that person who had played a vital role in your life but has hurt-ed you, you have to do it with conviction- for yourself and for all that wants you to be happy. At some point you need to stop looking out at others and start looking inward, at yourself, at your own accomplishments and your own failures. It's only when you begin to look inward that you can begin to have an effect on those out there.

Many a times you fail over and over and over again in life , only to succeed. You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It wont happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.'

I leave you today with a thought as why  are you going to choose failure when success is an option? why are you going to choose pain when joy is an option?

Remember always..instead of regretting about the past what's more important now is to change the present for the future.

                                 Cheers ..to a real YOU!